okay. first and foremost, there are ways of going about things. if you want long distance relationship advice, i’d be glad to give it. but i am really sick of questions relating to my own. i’m somewhat less inclined to give a positive response if you come to me with negative connotations of my own love life.

furthermore,

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i can’t really help you out with your own insecurities. my best advise would be to deal with those before you involve someone else in your life. but i get it. you can have your shit together and have every confidence in yourself, but all it takes is one person that you think is the most attractive, incredible human being upon the earth and that all gets blown out of the atlantic ocean.

but in reality, the only person you ever have to be good enough for is yourself. and your american boyfriend wouldn’t be your boyfriend if he didn’t think you were good enough.

my best advice would be to give up now. long distance relationships only get harder. you wanna hang out this weekend? so there’s that ten hour flight over that’ll set you back about £600+. so you may as well make it a week to make it worth your while. oh no wait, you have work that you can’t take off. so maybe it’d be easier if you live together… oh no wait you live in different continents. sure he can come visit you for 6 months on a visitor visa, or you stay with him for 3. but how are you going to pay rent with a visa that doesn’t allow you to work.

it’s a nigh on impossible relationship, especially when you involve all the issues that are inherent in all relationships, jealousy, doubts, insecurities…

but if there’s something you see in that one person that makes you believe they’re worth fighting through all that for…

just calm down and be yourself. don’t worry about whether you’ll lose him or not, whether you’re not good enough, pushing him away bla bla bla. if it works, despite all those difficulties, it works. if it doesn’t, maybe that’s better for the both of you. just enjoy the time you do have together.

this is not pizza related you little cunt.